This is 31.

When I was a kid, I definitely thought of people in their 30's as grown up. They had jobs, and kids, and a partner. I imagined that you attended post secondary education and then went off into the magical land of "grown up" where they had their shit figured out.

Well, I'm 31 today and I'm still working on it.



I went to a private college for musical theatre. I've had the opportunity to perform in shows (some amazing, some awful), be onstage, act silly in commercials, create my own work and get paid to do what I love.

I've had a multitude of jobs, quit jobs, been fired and acquired an eclectic skill set that includes musical theatre, administration, social media, event planning, customer service, nutrition, writing, health & weight loss coaching and being an executive assistant.

I've been single, engaged, dating and in relationships of various commitment levels.

I have no children, and don't have aspirations for that to change.

I still have friends I've known since I was 6, have collected friends from all areas of my life and enjoy making new friends (though I've discovered that it's a bit more challenging to do so as a so-called adult)

I've lost weight, gained it back, lost it again and have been more active than the gal who quit gym after grade 9 ever would have imagined. I've come to love my body and working actively towards nourishing it.

I've been faced with my fair share of challenges in the form of loss, health, decisions and relationships. It hasn't always been easy, but I've learned a lot and have always come out stronger on the other side.

I've travelled to England, Scotland, Ireland, Germany, St. Lucia and various places in the states including New York City, Las Vegas and Florida. I'll be expanding my Canadian horizons later this year with trips to Calgary and Halifax. It's a good start, but there's so much of the world I've yet to see.

I also still buy bows to wear in my hair from the children's section and got really excited about jammies with owls on them on the weekend. Aged 31 or 4? I'm not sure sometimes.

That being said, I'm pretty stoked for what this year is going to look like.

I accepted my dream job last week and had my first day yesterday. I finally feel like my eclectic skill set is going to be well utilized in a job that challenges and fulfils me, which is so exciting. I'm in an amazing relationship with the kindest, most generous and amazing man and I have fantastic friends who are rocking their own dreams. I feel fit, healthy and strong and love my role as a coach where I get to help others do the same! I'm really looking forward to some amazing travel this year around North America and am looking forward to getting to Europe soon too.

So maybe I'm not the "grown up" I imagined I would be, but that's really ok. 31 is gonna be just fine.

2 comments:

sherlockpoirot said...

Happy birthday!!

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